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Stacie “Farm Dog” Farmer

The beauty of Stacie Farmer’s soul remains with us every day.

When I run into people who went to school with her, when I see where life has taken them in the seven years since Farm Dog passed from our world, I hear echoes of her.

Whether she’s explicitly mentioned or not, Stacie is still here with all who knew her.

Her joy, her embrace of life and everyone living it, her utter devotion to all she embraced as friends — and I have yet to meet someone who knew Stacie who didn’t feel like they were her friend — was as deep as that shown by anyone.

Farm Dog didn’t sit back and wait for life to come to her. She reached out and seized every moment, and, in her 24 years, she made everyone, and every thing she touched, better for it.

I remember her hanging out at Videoville and Miriam’s Espresso, her laughter bouncing off the walls, and I remember her charging in to every softball game she played with a wild, giddy abandon.

After graduation, Stacie toured the world, from foreign countries to little rivers in the back country of the US, and every picture I have seen, every story I have heard, comes back to the same thing — joy.

It was easy seven years ago, and it is easy now, to be mad at her death, which was tragic and senseless.

The pain was eased a bit, hopefully, by seeing how Stacie’s decision to be an organ donor helped others.

Five different people received an invaluable assist.

In one case, a woman battling a rare liver disease has since gone on to have a “miracle baby” thanks to the second chance Farm Dog brought her.

There are those who will forever have a deep, personal connection to Stacie — her family, her closest friends, those who now carry a physical part of her with them every day.

But she is with all of us, whether we knew her for a moment or a lifetime.

Stacie is with us when we choose to show kindness.

Stacie is with us when we embrace others.

Stacie is with us when we live life well, when we honor her legacy — “bhavuta sabba mangalam” — “may all beings be happy.”

She is with us yesterday, today and tomorrow. She is with us every day.

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Stacie Farmer, during her days as a softball slugger.

   Stacie Farmer, during her days as a softball slugger. (Photos courtesy Farmer family)

Farm Dog

Farm Dog, on top of the world.

Stacie Farmer turns 29 today.

And yes, I am aware that, in one sense, she has been gone for five years. In another sense, however, she never left us.

A tragic accident damaged her body, but Farm Dog held on long enough for her family to reach her side before she departed the physical earth 24 years to the day she first entered it.

Sept. 15, 1986 – Sept. 15, 2010.

Not long enough at all, and yet she did so much, accomplished so much, brought so much joy to those she loved, or those she met just for a moment, that she filled every one of her days to bursting.

In the five years since her passing, Stacie’s life has lived on, through her words and those of all who knew her.

Her Facebook page, left open by her family, has become a place for people to remember the young woman who bounced through life, dreadlocks swinging, transcendent smile touching every part of the horizon.

From her days as a softball slugger at Coupeville High School to the moments when she and her friends hung out at Miriam’s Espresso and Videoville — where I most frequently came into contact with her — to her times exploring the world, her open heart reaching out to touch all she encountered, Stacie was like no other.

She wasn’t perfect. No one is. But she made a solid run at it.

Stacie strode through life, unafraid, always up to a challenge, always looking for the good in others.

In the mountains, on the river, wherever she was found, Farm Dog was the one who reached out to others, brought others into her world.

She was only here for 24 years, but she spent her time well.

Each of us who had a chance to know Stacie have kept her memory alive in some way, through stories, through tears, through memories.

With Coupeville Sports, I have a small, but unique, way to make sure her name, her memory, her spirit, never fades.

Here on this blog we have a Hall o’ Fame (it’s at the top of the blog under the Legends tab), dedicated to the best that Coupeville has produced. Normally the induction ceremonies, twelve so far, happen each Sunday.

Today, on a day that has so much significance, I want to induct Stacie alone, for she was always in a class by herself.

For her days on the diamond, yes, but more, for her life and the way she chose to live it.

It is not much, admittedly, but it is at least a small way in which I can make sure she is always with us, is always remembered.

When someone goes through the list of honorees and asks “Who was Stacie Farmer? Why is she in your Hall?” it will keep the conversation alive. It will give us another chance to make sure her flame never flickers.

As it should be.

On this day, and every day, we say “Goodnight, Stacie.” Never “Goodbye Stacie.”

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Stacie "Farm Dog" Farmer

Stacie “Farm Dog” Farmer

Farmer with Wolf softball teammates Andrea Larson (center) and Laura Crandall.

Farmer with Wolf softball teammates Andrea Larson (center) and Laura Crandall.

Today, 28 years ago, Stacie Farmer was born into the world, and joy exploded into the universe.

Today, four years ago, Farm Dog, unable to overcome injuries suffered when she was hit by a car while crossing a road on her bike, passed away on her birthday with her family and loved ones by her side.

Her joy still touches every part of the world.

Stacie’s tale, of a bright-eyed child who embraced life and everything it had to offer, who met each and every person, each and every challenge, with a huge grin and an open heart, will never be dimmed.

From far-flung mountain tops to the rivers of West Virginia, from a table at Miriam’s Espresso to the Coupeville High School softball field, her memory lives on through each and every person who ever met her.

We all carry a bit of Stacie inside of us, whether we knew her in passing or were a huge part of her life.

She radiated joy in everything she did.

In the brief years she had after Coupeville, she traveled the globe, dreadlocks bouncing in the sun, her epic smile preceding her arrival.

Little kids. Senior citizens. Extroverts. Introverts. Friends. Complete strangers. Didn’t matter. She approached everyone with an open heart.

At the time of her accident, she was having a great time working as a river rafting guide.

Another job around the same time she described as “I get paid to chill with kids and their sticky jam hands too.”

On this day, the sense of loss will be overwhelming for many.

Not only was someone lost, but someone who was doing so much good with her life. Someone who was having such an impact on others.

Someone who, without a doubt, deserved to continue on for many, many years.

The world is not the same without Stacie Farmer.

Everyone mourns in their own way. No one should be told how to deal with their loss by another, and, as always, my deepest sympathies go out to her family.

But, on this day, which was a day of both great joy and heartbreak, I hope as many people as possible will choose to embrace the sparkling spirit that drove Farm Dog.

Celebrate her life and all her accomplishments.

Simply smile at someone. Be friendly to a stranger. Tell those close to you how you feel about them.

Do whatever small thing you can to make life better for others. Spread Stacie’s gospel of love and joy.

Embrace her favorite saying and then actually live it through your actions.

Bhavuta sabba mangalam — may all beings be happy.

Stacie was happiness, a bright, burning ball of never-ending happiness.

Nothing has dimmed that. Nothing will dim it. Ever.

We can’t, and won’t, let that happen.

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