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Charlie Toth

A memorial service for Charlie Toth has been set for Friday, Sept. 1.

Toth, who graduated from Coupeville High School in 1976, played on the ’75-’76 Wolf boys basketball team which made it to the state tourney, and was an ardent supporter of my efforts as a writer.

The service is 11 AM at The Stone Chapel (22272 Foss Road NE) in Poulsbo, with a reception to follow.

There will be a general theme of Husky colors (purple and gold) as Toth was a University of Washington football season ticket holder and devoted fan for many years.

His obituary:

Charles (Charlie) Toth finished his work on Earth on Thursday, June 8 after fighting a rare, inoperable brain tumor for more than 14 years.

He was an extraordinary individual, always interested in those he crossed paths with.

Charlie was a wonderful husband, father, son, brother, uncle, brother-in-law, neighbor and friend.

He never complained about his situation, and graciously accepted and adapted to the many challenges that brain cancer threw at him.

He was very grateful for those who cared for him: his wife Val, daughter Shelby, stepdaughter Veronica, family, friends, and medical team.

His optimism consistently amazed his doctors and caregivers.

Charlie was a Northwest native, born in Seattle.

He graduated from Coupeville High School on Whidbey Island, and subsequently earned a bachelor’s degree (with honors) in economics from the University of Washington.

Charlie initially lived in the south campus dorms, where he met many of his longtime friends and also worked for a time as a resident advisor.

He was a lifelong UW Husky fan and Husky football season ticket holder.

Charlie began working at a very young age, washing dishes, cooking, and bucking hay.

He wanted to make sure that he never asked anyone for anything that he couldn’t do himself.

He insisted on paying his own college tuition and expenses, and at one time worked two full-time jobs (Equifax and Nintendo) in order to save money for a down payment to buy his first home.

He worked for and retired from Equifax after 26 years.

Charlie married Valen Monell on a Caribbean cruise in 1999.

They made their home in Poulsbo where they raised her daughter, Veronica, then welcomed their daughter Shelby in 2002.

He is survived by Val, Veronica, Shelby, his mother Barbara, sisters Patti, Jennifer, Melissa and Janet, brothers-in-law Vic, Mike, Randy, Bob, Roland and Terry, sisters-in-law Janelle and Dahlia, and many nephews and nieces.

His father Alex and niece Katie predeceased him.

Charlie’s kindness knew no boundaries.

Despite his illness, he volunteered at Seattle Children’s Hospital, never letting on about his own health struggles.

Charlie spoke at local schools, teaching students about the importance of personal finance and using credit responsibly.

Charlie was a Big Brother, mentoring a young man from the age of eight.

His Little Brother Jason (now 30) has stayed in touch and let us all know how much his Big Brother meant to him.

Charlie loved to travel with his family and friends, including several cruises and some especially memorable trips to London and Edinburgh.

Even in this final year, he had travel plans for this year and next, never letting his brain tumor slow him down or define him.

His friends visited the care facility many times over the past months, often bringing Charlie’s favorite foods such as sandwiches from Hitchcock Deli and the Grub Hut, and tacos from El Camion.

Most of all they brought laughter and banter, which always made for great visits.

We wish to thank UW Medicine, Duke University, Swedish Cherry Hill, Martha & Mary, CHI Franciscan Hospice House, doctors Toni Roberts and Tara Benkers, and the many other doctors, nurses, physical/occupational/speech therapists, massage therapists, acupuncturist, pastors, chaplains, and volunteers who accompanied Charlie and his family on this journey.

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Charlie Toth

I never met Charlie Toth in person, but he had a huge impact on me.

A member of the Coupeville High School Class of 1976, and an inductee in the Coupeville Sports Hall o’ Fame as part of the ’75-’76 boys basketball squad, Mr. Toth passed away Thursday.

He had fought against an inoperable brain tumor for 14 years.

My first contact with Charlie came in Oct., 2013, when he reached out to me on Facebook to ask a question about Nick Streubel’s college football plans.

After that we talked back and forth from time to time.

He was a fountain of information about teams and players from the ’70s, a stretch of time when the Wolves were highly successful.

Charlie was part of that, though he was quick to brush off any reflected glory, joking “My butt warmed many benches at CHS before my graduation.”

During our discussions, we talked sports and writing, and he was unfailing in always giving me a boost, telling me how much he had enjoyed a certain article, or pointing out a new direction I could take my research in.

He came back to town for his 40-year reunion, but I was out of town and missed out on the opportunity to meet him in person.

We had talked about sharing lunch the next time he was around — he offered to buy, which is an offer which can never be turned down by a writer scraping out a living day-to-day.

I knew a little of his health issues, but didn’t realize what a heroic battle he had fought until the news of his passing.

What I do know is in our online conversations he came across as an extraordinarily decent man, a guy who remembered his time at CHS (and his friends from there) with real joy.

Our conversations, peppered with tidbits of history and pats on the back (which always seemed to come at just the right time), were a genuine pleasure.

I appreciate what he gave me, and I hope, through my writing here on Coupeville Sports, I honor him.

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Bennett Boyles

Goodnight, never goodbye.

Coupeville Middle School hoops star Bennett Boyles lost his ongoing battle with cancer this week.

Losing anyone is rough.

Losing a bright-eyed, life-loving 11-year-old is like being slammed through the chest.

In his young life, Bennett showed grace, courage and love beyond his years.

He sits at the top of this blog, enshrined under the Legends tab, and he will live in our hearts.

If you have a chance, please help his family, his mom Lucienne, and everyone who knew and loved him.

A word. A prayer. A thought.

Some of us are on the outside and others on the inside. What each of us can or can’t do will depend on that.

But we can all unite, as a town, as a Wolf Nation, for Bennett and his family.

Live in a way that would make him proud. That would show him his fight and his character is not forgotten.

Show love today, and every day.

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Stacie

   Stacie Farmer (left) hangs out with Wolf softball teammates Andrea Larson (middle) and Laura Crandall. (Photos courtesy the Farmer family)

Farm Dog

Farm Dog being Farm Dog.

Today is a terrible day and a beautiful day, entwined together.

It is both the day Stacie Farmer entered the world and the day her body could no longer keep her here.

A life spirit like no other, a young woman who generated nothing but good will wherever she went, from her days at Coupeville High School and far beyond, Farm Dog will always be with us.

She was born Sept. 15, 1986, Brian and Cathi Farmer’s third child, joining David and Lisa.

Stacie passed from the physical world six years ago, on her birthday, unable to recover from injuries suffered when she was hit by a car while on a bicycle.

In the 24 years between those two birthdays, she was a genuine rarity, a young woman who crossed all lines and boundaries and found friends in every nook and cranny.

Whether she was patrolling the softball field for the Wolves, hanging out with her pack at Miriam’s Espresso and Videoville, or carving out new paths in far-flung locales after graduation, there was always an adventure to be embraced.

As the years pass, it is vitally important we all, here in Coupeville and in the many other communities she spent time in, never forget her soaring spirit.

The way she welcomed life in every day.

In simple gestures and big moments alike, she left a little bit of Farm Dog in the soul of everyone she met along her journey.

In her latter years, she was fond of the saying “bhavuta sabba mangalam,” which translates to “may all beings be happy.”

Whether you knew her intimately or were never blessed with a chance to meet her, open your heart and listen to Stacie’s words.

Embrace them, act on them.

That way Farm Dog lives forever, a part of all of us.

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Kim Meche (center)

Kim Meche (center) with her players.

The story I wrote in the Whidbey News-Times when Meche left Oak Harbor to take the Coupeville job.

   The story I wrote in the Whidbey News-Times when Meche left Oak Harbor to take the Coupeville job.

Kim Meche was one of the nicest people I have ever met.

She was also one of the most talented, and, ultimately, one of the bravest.

Today is her birthday and that she is not here to celebrate it with her family, friends and the many young women she impacted on the volleyball court is truly sad.

Except, Kim was never one to embrace the sadness, even in her darkest moments. And we should remember that.

Her sense of humor, her compassion for others, her love, never faded, not in the fun times, when she was flying high as a player and coach, or in the lowest of times, when she relentlessly fought cancer to a standstill.

Cancer rarely loses, and the disease will claim that it took Kim.

Except it didn’t.

Through the pain, and the struggle, her smile was there, always. She loved her life, and she fought to hold on to it.

Her body lost the battle in 2013, but her spirit never faded. Not then and not now.

She fought like the Wildcat she was, like the Wolf she was, like the Bulldog she was.

Those three animals represent the three high schools Kim was associated with — Oak Harbor, Coupeville and Stevenson.

She was a superb athlete who became an even better coach, a rarity, and led two separate high schools to state tourneys.

The day she left Oak Harbor, her alma mater, to come to Coupeville, I was Sports Editor at the Whidbey News-Times and got to write the story about the move.

I had worked with her before, and worked with her afterwards, and the one thing which never changed was how she conducted herself.

She wasn’t coaching for the money, she was coaching for love.

I have seen a lot of coaches come and go, and a few just have that magic sparkle, an ability to reach in and touch lives with a few words.

Kim was one of the absolute best.

When she left Coupeville, to go to Stevenson a world away and become an administrator, she left the Coupeville program in the hands of her assistant, Toni Crebbin, and the Wolves never skipped a beat.

As word filtered in of her battles with cancer, everyone who knew her pulled for Kim, rejoiced when she got better, and crashed when she got worse.

The day she passed three communities mourned as one.

But here’s the thing.

Her impact goes on to this day, and it will go on for a very, very long time.

It filters down through every young woman who played for her and now passes on her wisdom to their own children.

It filters down through every person who coached with her, who taught with her, who worked with her.

It filters down through every one of us who talked to her, who listened to her, who remembers her.

Kim Meche was a rare gem in this world, and she will not be forgotten.

When I started my Coupeville Sports Hall o’ Fame, she was the first person I inducted. And really, there is no one else who I even considered other than her for that position.

Some set records. Some change worlds.

She did both.

From all of us who had the chance to know you, Kim, happy birthday. May your spirit burn brightly, today and every day.

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